But if my husband made a joke about me always being sassy in the mornings and our nanny made a knowing look at him — it would be game over.
Not only would I not appreciate her agreeing I was sassy in the mornings, I wouldn't appreciate this unspoken bond she had with my husband. And that's exactly what happened to this mom. His joke was fine. Her look at him, as if they shared something - was so not okay. I left her a message on her home phone as soon as she left on Friday.
Some parents think it's amazing when they get along famously with their nanny or babysitter. But when does friendly become too friendly? The family then begged to have that nanny come back to work under new circumstances.
There's one thing I think all parents can agree on: they'd do anything for their kids. Making sure they're safe is a parent's top priority, and if that means following the nanny to make sure they are where they say they are, then so be it. She then came home and told me about the wonderful time they had 'playing' at the park. Oftentimes nannies are asked to watch more than one child — all being different ages, of course. So what happens when a nanny prefers one child to the other?
She stated that a 3-month-old was only capable of sleeping, pooping, and eating not true. Social media tells all these days. As soon as a person is applying for a job, it's important they keep their social media pages clean and professional or at least keep it private.
On one status update where she was tagged it said: 'Waiting for my bestie to finish work so we can hang. It said: 'As soon as I'm done watching the evil monsters I'll be there. She never responded. Needless to say, my friends also let her go. There are some people who think they can sneak things by their employer without them noticing.
But that's a little different when you're working one-on-one, right? She would say she took our four-year-old out to lunch or for a treat, and needed extra money for that.
We had no problem compensating her, but she could never provide any receipts and our child would always tell us they never ate anywhere. It was like she was charging us for little things because we hadn't given her more money.
The final straw came when I realized she had been using our Uber account when she wasn't watching our child. We had given her the login for emergencies. When religion is big in a household, it's important for a nanny or babysitter to respect that religion even if it's different from their own.
After all, they're being paid to help and influence that child, so it would be appreciative if they followed suit. One mom told Reddit that fired their babysitter once their views on religions clashed. It would never occur to me to go out and tell your kids God doesn't exist.
The great thing about social media sites like Twitter is they're a great outlet for emotions, creating relationships, and even content.
However, when you're 19 years old, the last thing you should be doing is talking negatively about your employer and the kids you work for. There are a lot of movies and cartoons depicting babysitters and nannies sleeping on the job. Once those kids go down for their nap, some would think their caregivers would take a nap also.
But that's not typically the case. Most parents give nannies things to do while the kids are napping, but this one babysitter in particular never got that memo. Totally unacceptable, so I fired her. It's incredibly frustrating when the nanny also acts like a child. Depending on the age of the nanny or sitter, they're stepping in as caregiver, so they need to act like one. We gave her two weeks severance and told we no longer required her services. Even though we were firing her for cause, we decided to pay her the two weeks, as stipulated in her contract.
We did not want to get into a back and forth because we did not have definite proof and we could not see the value in arguing over it. There were indications that she was planning to blame her suspicious behavior on a medical condition.
The bottom line was, we no longer trusted her with our kids. It was a stressful final meeting but we were careful not go into detail and to simply say, "this is no longer working for us. Question: I am a new parent and have employed my nanny now for 3 months. I am having doubts about her and am not sure what to do.
I don't think she is interacting with my daughter enough. I basically feel like she is lazy and not right for our family and i am thinking of gently letting her go.
I am just not good at confrontation and believe she is the type of person if i said all of this too her it wouldn't go down well. I guess I am a bit scared of bringing this up as I don't think anything would change. I am really in need of some advice. Has anyone been through a similar situation?
It sounds like you should probably cut your losses and find someone new. It seems that she is not listening to you and I've found that if you're not happy with a caregiver it is better to find a new one sooner rather than later, especially with a baby who is so little This nanny stuff is so hard.
My advice to you, having had nannies, is to put the child in daycare. There is always structured playtime, and I believe it can be less expensive than the nanny, depending on what you're paying her. You can never be sure what one individual is doing all day with you child while you're out - you can install cameras but who really wants to bother with that?
I had a great experience with daycare, my son went since he was 10 months i would have put him sooner but I had no work at the time , and it's also more dependable since you don't have to worry about a nanny not showing up or calling in sick, etc. I know this doesn't necessarily answer your question, just letting you know there are options out there.
If you do choose to keep a nanny, I would definitely let this one go - you don't have to explain everything to her, it's none of her business really, and find someone who will take care of your baby the way you want them to.
After all, you are paying them your hard earned money. If you were slacking off at your job, I'm sure the bosses would take action. Same situation except more important because it's your baby. You are firing her for cause. In other employment contexts, someone fired for cause is not entitled to severance.
You may choose to, but that would be generous of you to do so combined with the fact that she's been working with you for a very short period of time. After all, this woman knows where you live, has a copy of your keys! In the end, we "ate" two weeks of severance, I told her many nice things about her all true , kept every single last complaint to myself, and we parted very amicably. We then found the most wonderful nanny in the world after her departure, and I feel lucky and blessed every day that she is with my family.
There are real-life Mary Poppinses out there. Just keep looking! Just as I would expect my nanny to give me adequate feedback and let me know if something wasn't working out from her perspective, I feel like it is integral to extend the same courtesy to her. As an employer, perhaps you should talk to your nanny and let her know what you are uncomfortable with and see if she can improve or wants to , if she doesn't then, feel free to terminate the relationship knowing that you did your best.
But just firing a nanny and hiring someone else without any sort of heads up does not seem fair. I do empathize though and it sounds like a difficult situation. But as employers, there are certain steps that I think it is important to follow. We would agonize over whether or not to fire people. Inevitably, as time went on, the employee did something that affirmed that they should be terminated. Speaking personally — over the last nine years, I have had five different roles at two different companies.
Over the course of those nine years, I have had to fire a number of people — most of whom I liked and would hire again in a different role at a different company.
The fact that someone is not a good fit in their current role, or with their current employer, is often just that — a fact. It is not a criticism of who you are as a person, your skills in your position, or your philosophy — it is just not a match. The amount of time and energy you spend getting to know an employing family is usually not taken for granted, and most of your past employers, regardless of how messy the ending of the relationship is, are truly rooting for you and want you to succeed, even if success will not be achieved in their household.
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Apply Now! Blog Contact Us Most people get fired from a job at some point in their lives. Since even the most professional nannying position takes place in a private home and your success in a role relies so heavily on your personality and your interactions with a family in a private environment, often the sting of getting fired is harsher than it is in a corporate setting.
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